Archive | June, 2011

Another Fun Day!

29 Jun

Today my grandmother (Mam-ma) and Aunt Julie came by to visit little Zoey and bring her some pizza! When they first got here Zoey was napping and when she woke up she was very sweet and went to see Julie. It was so sweet to watch her hug and love on them. Sweet girl is getting braver and braver every day! :)

She was such a mess too showing off dancing and playing with everyone. My brother stopped by later that afternoon and Zoey did great and actually let him hold her too! She is not too sure about men so when she lets guys hold her it is a big deal.

Later that night little miss was still wide awake so we headed out to the backyard for some fun. We found out quick that Zoey HATES grass. She does not like how it feels on her feet but it did make for some cute pictures! So we ended up getting out the picnic blanket for her to play on. She is not walking yet but she sure is getting there and I am not encouraging this one bit. Poor thing anytime she starts to act like she is going to walk I stop it. I want a non walking baby as long as I can. :)

Eric also pulled out her car from the garage and she LOVED it. She was too cute driving it and HAD to steer the entire time. It was too funny! I am not sure what our neighbors thought of the crazy people that play in their backyard at 11:30 at night! :) I can’t believe our little girl has only been with us for two weeks. She has come SO far in such a short time. I would be lying if I said everything is easy peasy and perfect now but we are growing together as a family day by day and what I do know is that we are falling more and more in love with her each day. Words can not describe how much I love my sweet pea! I mean just look at that cute picture below…

Week in Review: June 22nd- June 29th

29 Jun

So I have decided in an attempt to do something with all of the crazy amount of pictures and video I seem to take of Zoey to do a week in review slideshow every Wednesday to celebrate one more week as a family! :)

Adopting From Korea: Airport Tips

28 Jun


So guess what? Today Zoey’s Social Security Card came in the mail. So that means we did our paperwork right coming into the country! A big relief over here…

A friend of mine who is expecting her travel call to Korea any day now sent me a couple of questions last night about the airport and it got me and Eric talking about everything that happened that we were very confused and not prepared for. So this is for all you soon to be traveling mommas…I hope this helps you guys out!

Now I am not saying this is 100% how it has to be every time but it is what happened with us and a couple of other moms I have talked with too.

Leaving the Airport in Korea to Come Back to the US:

When you are going through customs they will ask for your passports. Give them all 3 passports. They will take you out of line and walk you to the office. Do not be alarmed or have a near panic attack like I almost did. They will tell all 3 of you to sit on a bench outside this door and take all of your passports in the office. DO NOT GIVE THEM THE SEALED PACKET YOU RECEIVE ON GOTCHA DAY…ONLY THE PASSPORTS.

Not sure what they do in the room but they will take a little piece of paper off the passport. I am assuming they called SWS to confirm that we could take Zoey but not really sure. But it freaked us out waiting on this bench outside the office while the officers who could not speak english had our passports in the room. It took a good 15-20 minutes so don’t start worrying. After we got back I heard from other adoptive parents that this happened to them too so I am guessing it is standard procedure but I was not prepared for this at all!

Bonus Tip: Every airport terminal has a super cool kids play room. Zoey did ok playing in it. She was still really shy and freaked out when this kid went down the slide but other than that she loved playing in the cool ball pit. So don’t be afraid to get to the airport early. You will have fun things to do with the kids.

Once in the US:

You have to go through immigration twice. We did not know the process but after asking several employees here is the process we were told to do.

Do the US Citizen Immigration line first for you and your husband.

All three of you need to go up to the counter at the same time. Not one by one like Eric and I typically do when traveling before. They will ask for your three passports. Give them your two and show them child’s visa. DO NOT LET THIS GUY OPEN THE PACKET! But they did ask us if we had the “required paperwork” we showed it to him but did not hand it to him since we were too afraid he would break the special seal that could not be opened.

At that point they will walk you to the non US Citizen immigration “special” line. So you don’t have to wait in line twice plus it is not where the typical non US citizens go since you have to see a person with a special stamp.
THIS PERSON WILL OPEN THE PACKET. It will take a good bit for them to do whatever they have to do. Before I handed him the packed we told him we were adopting and made sure he was the guy we needed to see and clarified there was no misunderstanding before he opened the packet. (Can you tell we were paranoid about this?)

They keep the big packet and you take the stamped child’s visa. I was very nervous about leaving the packet because it didn’t feel right to me and emailed our social worker once we get back but it was correct. We got her social security card in the mail today so all was ok! :)

Side Note:

Ok our connection was pretty tight seeing all that had to be done. We had a 2.5 hour layover in Detroit and that seemed VERY rushed so if you can get longer I would suggest it. We did not have time for food, changing clothes, etc that we had planned on doing during the layover.

Since we were rushing our “special line guy” told Eric did not have to be there at the counter during this time so he told him to go ahead and get the cart and all of our luggage for the customs.

Luggage Recheck:

Unless this is your final destination you will re-check your luggage once you get to the US it not because you are changing flights but because you have to go through customs and you must walk your bags through customs. I am sure wherever you are checking in they will have it down to a T like they did with us in Detroit.

We just had to get our bags in the baggage claim in the customs area and take them with us to immigration (I would suggest getting a cart since you will have a baby to take care of. Eric took care of all the bags on the cart and I tended to Zoey during the process). But immigration was only a couple of feet from the customs baggage claim.

Then once through the other side of custom and immigration there will be a man there to scan and take your bags back. They don’t change luggage tickets or anything…it was a VERY smooth process.

Immigration:

We got flagged to be checked for agriculture. Don’t ask me why but we did. So be prepared for all your luggage to be checked. But you can take a bottle already made through this part. They have to check to make sure it is not a bomb so it will be snatched from the child at some point but you can take it. So I would suggest having one already made at this point just in case your child gets fussy while the bags are all being examined. :)

They will also have to test any non sealed formula cans for bomb dust but it is ok too. You will not be able to walk through security with the child in the carrier like in Korea but other than that everything is pretty standard. It was just our first time doing security with a child. We had our system down for traveling just us two but that little one and all of her stuff was an adjustment for us.

So that is the only airport surprises I can think of…Just make sure you pack enough diapers! :) Read this post for our funny story regarding our diaper shortage…

I hope this helps all of you!

Happy Birthday Bella and Ben

26 Jun

It was Bella and Ben’s birthday this weekend so Tanner and Nichole rented a room at the Ross Bridge Resort for a hotel pool party. On Sunday we took Zoey up there for some fun swimming time. It was SO cute because all three of the cousins had matching bathings suits! :) Bella just loves it when Zoey dresses like her!

We had a great time celebrating their birthdays and having fun swimming with Zoey in the pool. We even took Zoey down the water slide. It was funny going up the slide I told Eric that I have never been nervous doing any type of water slide, roller coaster, etc but for the first time in my life I had butterflies about taking my sweet baby down the slide! :) But sweet girl did great and loved the fun pool time…however she was not a fan of posing for pics as you will see below…

Once the party was over we took Zoey home for a nap and then later that night went and grabbed some mexican food with the kids. Zoey has become quite a little eater! She ate tons of rice, beans, and then proceeded to eat Bella and Mae’s bean burrito too! She ate all night and seriously would have closed the place down eating if we would have let her! Zoey also got to meet one of her great aunts and great grandmother in town from Nashville. She has not been doing too well with crowds but she surprised us again by hanging out with everyone like a trooper. I really think having the other girls around make her feel more comfortable.

It was so great having everyone together and seeing Zoey with her family. We were also so happy to share Bella and Ben’s special day with them too…Happy Birthday Bella and Ben!

Zoey Goes To The Zoo

25 Jun

So this weekend we attempted our first trip to the zoo with Zoey again and this time it was a success. Well Friday night we tried going but it rained again but on Saturday it finally worked out. It was actually better that we got delayed because Dana and the Bennett’s got to join us. It was so sweet of Lindsay, Cole, and Brax to drive all the way from Chattanooga to visit with Zoey. And Zoey was super excited to meet Brax and go to the zoo with him. Brax was also such the gentleman and pushed Zoey around the house in her wagon. It was too cute!

Wagon Time!

Did You REALLY Just Say What I Think You Did?!?!

24 Jun

Today was a day of firsts around our house. For those of you who do not know Eric and I (well Eric mostly) are big movie fans and we love going out to the movies. So earlier this week I asked Eric if he wanted to go on a date with me this Friday. But this date was a little different than our normal 8:00 dinner and midnight movies. It was a 9:00 am date to Starbucks and 10:30 am movie. I am embarrassed to say what the first movie I took our daughter to…it was Bad Teacher with Cameron Diaz. So that pretty much makes me a “Bad Mommy” but in my defense we went purposely during her nap time and she slept the entire movie in the carrier with the hood on so she did not see a thing. And Eric reassured me I was not “that” bad of a mommy because she is barely understanding english. :) So whatever…I hope it does not have a long term impact on the poor child! But she did great! She really did sleep the entire time but our little girl is a LOUD snorer so I felt bad for her snoring and actually got up to go and sit down front where no one was around and would be bothered by her loud snores.

Would I take her to a movie again…you bet I will! As long as I can keep timing it during nap or sleeping times I will certainly do it. She honestly sleeps better in the carrier and with loud noises than she does at night in the quiet bedroom. But maybe next time I will take her to not such a, well “ear muffs” type of movie…

So after our major movie first we headed on over to a car dealership to look at some small SUV’s. Eric’s car is WAY too small for a car seat. I mean the car seat would not even fit (she is still facing rear for one more year) behind the seats. When it is in the middle I can literally see Zoeys face next to mine in the front seat it sticks up between the seats so much. Back when he originally got his car we were planning on that being the small gas saver car and me taking the SUV but since I get a car with work that plan has changed. We are not in any hurry to get in a new car but after the movie thought it would be a good time to just go looking to see what type of small SUV we want.

Ok so now here is where things took a turn and we experienced our second first. The car salesmen was giving his little sales pitch then out of the blue he pointed at Zoey and said ”WHAT IS SHE…A JAP?” I literally about jumped up and strangled the guy right then and there but luckily for him Zoey was still asleep in my carrier. I could not believe the words coming out of his mouth. I mean SERIOUSLY…what kind of person are you #1 and #2 are you not trying to sell us a car!

There are many parts of this comment that irked me. I think the first issue I have is the “WHAT IS SHE?” Umm…what do you mean what is she? This “SHE” you are referring to like a breed of dog is MY DAUGHTER! So people if you want to know what race someone’s adopted child is please do not start the conversation by going “WHAT IS SHE?”. How about “What is your daughter’s birth country?” or “What country did you adoption your daughter from?”

The second part and probably the most obvious is the very racial “A JAP” comment. If you are going to lead with “WHAT IS SHE?” You might want to at least follow it up with “A child born in Japan?”. Now that I think about this some more the “A” in the “A JAP” comment bothers me just as much as the “JAP”. I mean it was like she was an object to him like “A cat” or “A ball” not “A human being that happens to be my DAUGHTER!” And the “JAP” part of the comment…come on!!!

So there it was…our first racial slur that we knew would eventually be coming! And sadly I am sure it will not be the last. When I first typed this post I went into a VERY long spill about racism and how it just gets me but after my editor of a husband read it he had me calm down and reminded me that this guy was just ignorant not the evil hatred racist I made him out to be in my head. We honestly do not think there was a VERY HATRED racial intention behind his comment and that he was just a jerk who was obviously socially uneducated and did not realize how hurtful his words came across to these new parents. So I have copied and pasted my rant for another day’s blog post. It has taken a couple of days but I have forgiven him and am aware that unfortunately this is something that will be a part of our life now that we have an interracial family. But boy do I wish this world was different! And I am not going to stop praying and trying to change it until it is!

So just in case you are wondering how I respond to the jerk of the car salesman? I gave a very mean momma bear look and said “NO ACTUALLY MY DAUGHTER IS KOREAN AMERICAN” in the most smart and sassy way I could. I then proceeded to talk about how rude he was was at a very loud voice once he left the room. I think he must have overhead me because a couple of minutes later he brought his “non-white” friend back in the room with him to chit chat with us…Doesn’t matter buddy! The damage is already done and you made this momma mad so it doesn’t matter how many different raced people you bring over to talk to me I know what you truly think about my innocent little girl so it looks like you are not selling a car to us anytime soon!

Let the Playdates Begin

23 Jun

Today Zoey and I slept in again (I could really get used to this life) then we got up had breakfast and played around the house a bit and one of my good friends Meg came over with her mom and son Jack. It was too cute getting to watch the two of them play together. Thanks so much Meg for Zoey’s goodies too!

Later that night our sweet neighbor Beth and Josh brought over dinner with their son Dax. Zoey loved getting to play with him too! It has been too cute to watch Zoey with other little kids. Sweet little girl is going to have her pick of suitors because just about all of my friends have baby boys! :)

Little Miss Blueberry

23 Jun

This morning Nichole called and suggested we all go out to the blueberry patch to pick some yummy summer treats. Last summer Eric and I went and we ate off of those blueberries all summer so of course I was up for it. I honestly thought Zoey would stay in the carrier and be disinterested the entire time but boy was I wrong. She LOVED the blueberry farm. And once she saw all the other kids picking and eating the blueberries she just HAD to join them. It was too funny! Luckily the farm does not spray the bush’s with anything so you can eat right off the bush and that is all Zoey wanted to do. She did not want anyone to give her any. She had to pick and eat her own all by herself. She also decided that she did not like the blueberry skins so she would eat, some how de-skin them in her mouth, then spit back out the skins. It made for a VERY VERY messy but super cute baby! We had a blast getting to spend time with her cousins and in the process walked away with 2 gallons of blueberries for $24! They are already bagged and in the freezer to enjoy all summer!

Below are some pictures from our fun day. I went back and forth as to wether or not to show her topless pictures but Eric decided since she will not be able to ever run for president (something that honestly makes me sad but I guess it is just part of it) then we will show you the super cute pics! Check out all the blueberries in her hair. I am still washing them out! :)

Happy 50th Birthday Honey!

22 Jun


This past Sunday was my mom’s 50th birthday. We had our hands full since we had just gotten home so we did not get a chance to celebrate with her so tonight we decided to have my family over for a birthday dinner. It was great getting to have everyone over to celebrate one VERY SPECIAL LADY! I only wish we could have done more to celebrate her because she has done so much for me and is the best mother that anyone could ask for but a cake baked by me and Zoey and a couple of decorations was about all we could swing. Like I said in my fathers day post…things are just a little harder to do once a little one is around! :)

Zoey loves her Honey and my mom said the best birthday present she could ask for was a sweet little grand baby! This year her wish came true!!!!

One Week Anniversary Date

22 Jun

Today was a great day! Eric and I woke up early and decided to take little one to the zoo. It was our one week family anniversary and we wanted to celebrate. Plus we are trying to make the most of my maternity leave while we can… So we headed out the door once Zoey woke up (again at 9:45 am). We were so excited but as soon as we got to the zoo’s gates it decided to downpour. Since Zobaby daddy’s favorite pizza place is right down the road we decided to grab lunch first. Zoey LOVED it too! As much as I am trying to fight it it looks like Zoey is a full on Bush…what do I mean by this. She LOVES pizza! If you guys only knew how much the Bush’s like pizza. I was hoping having a girl on my team would mean more non pizza meals but it is not looking like I am going to be winning this battle anytime soon! :)

After lunch the rain slacked up so we thought it would be a perfect cool afternoon for the zoo and less crowded but of course as soon as we got in the parking lot again it started downpouring again. So next option was the McWane Center. But as we pulled up to the parking deck it was full and super crowded so no go there too. Oh well…we tried and at least our first family lunch date was a success! :)

Later that night something else very special happened. Zoey said DaDa! And it was not an accident either! We have been trying to get her to say it for a while and out of the blue when Eric left the room to go and brush his teeth she yelled it! We all clapped then he left again and she yelled it again. He kept peaking his head in and out of the bathroom and every time she would scream it! It was SO sweet!!! I really wish we had it on camera but it was dark in the room. Baby girl is finally warming up to her daddy. She love him she really does but if she had to choose between me and him it was always me but now things are changing. She likes going to him and especially playing with him. It is so cute getting to watch them together. It just melts my heart! :)

I still can’t believe it has already been a week we have been a family but in the same thought it is hard to remember life without my little nugget!

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