This morning we had a conference call with other families waiting to travel at our agency. It started off with me being 10 minutes late to calling in. I was SO embarrassed! I had to introduce myself when I joined late so everyone knew I was late. I wanted to say I PROMISE I will be a good mom. I will not forget my kid at the grocery store! This is a complete fluke that I am late calling in…but of course I couldn’t say that…oh well!
So the conference call went over things we could expect while in Korea and when we get home. Most of the info I already knew but some of it just really hit me that this is happening and I kind of started freaking out! There is so much that needs to still be done…I wanted to learn Korean (well some words at least) before we traveled, I wanted to research all the activities we wanted to do while there, I need to organize the house more, I need to read more books, we need more time to fundraise, oh and my list could go on and on.
Now don’t get me wrong…if we got the travel call tomorrow I would be ecstatic. I want my baby home so bad and so fast! But all these things I have been putting off to do “later” and “closer to time” I must start doing now!!! And this just kind of sank in yesterday while I was driving down to the beach for a work conference.
So what did I do last night after the first day of the conference wrapped up…I went to Barnes and Noble to purchase “The Baby Book” by Dr. Sears and stayed up last night reading 200 of the 700 page book! I may not be at home to organize and plan their but I could plan my “parenting style”. I really believe strongly in the concept that our church preaches that where there is no vision the people parish. And I certainly don’t want to wing this parenting thing. I was a nanny all through highschool and college and have seen every type of parent under the sun. The one good thing from this is that I know what type of parent I want to be. I got the pleasure of learning from all those mothers successes and failures.
One thing I do know for sure is that the kids and parents I liked the best were the ones with visions and plans on how and why there were parenting. I guess I was raised with a purpose too. I always knew what was expected of me by my parents and what our life was daily going to be like. So that is something I really want to pass on to Zoey. Now I do know that with kids nothing ever goes as planned so I fully anticipate changing and adjusting our philosophies as we go along. But I have decided that I think the best fit for us as a family especially with an adopted child is the “The Attachment Parenting” style. One of the 7 steps of attachment parenting is being a prepared parent on how to parent. So after reading 10 or so books, numerous websites, and many blogs, and my years of experience I truly do feel very prepared but getting back up plans in place just incase my plans need tweaking I know what direction I want to tweak.
Can you tell I am a control freak planner?!?! At least I get to plan at nights this week with this amazing view!