In honor of Lebron James big special announcement tonight we have decided to announce some big news about us….I am just kidding but we really were planning on posting this tonight and I thought the media hype over a basketball player picking a team was too funny not to mention. So anyway our big news is…
WE HAVE STARTED THE ADOPTION PROCESS!
We are SO excited about welcoming a new child into our family soon and could not wait to share this with all of you. We also know that this is a little different than us announcing we are pregnant so many of you may have questions about what all this means so let me try to fill you in real quick on some of those answers we do and do not know now.
What we do know…
- Why are you adopting?
We have always wanted to adopt. I know many of you probably do not understand this feeling but like all other adopting/adopted parents God gives you this special desire deep down in your gut to go out into the world to find your child that is waiting to come home to you. It is an indescribable feeling of this overwhelming urge to bring our baby home.
- Can you or do you want to have biological children?
Yes, No, Maybe so. I know that is not a real answer but we have always wanted to adopt one and have one. That has been the plan since we started seriously dating really. So when the time came for us to get ready to start a family we did try to biologically have a child so we got every test under the sun, got poked and prodded too many times to count, and had a couple of heartbreaks along the way but in the end realized God was shutting that door for right now. We know that with God all things are possible so maybe one day we will have a biological child but for now we have closed up shop and not desiring that at the moment.
- Since you tried first does that mean you adopting is a second choice?
No freaking way! That was our biggest fear of sharing that we had tried with others to begin with. Our soon to be adopted child is SO wanted, desired, prayed for, and already loved in our hearts it is 100% #1. We are at more peace with adopting now than we ever were with trying so we know that as we grow our family maybe it was just meant to be for us to adopt first and the future is yet to be decided.
- Is it guaranteed that you will adopt a baby?
Just like with any pregnancy (or life come to think of it) nothing is guaranteed. So we have really no idea what God has in store for our future. All we do know is that we have asked the agency if it was time to share with others and they said yes. So we have passed enough of their requirements so far to feel comfortable enough to saying it is looking like yes we will be adopting a baby.
- What does the adoption process look like?
The process starts out with an application where they review general stats about your ex: age, length of marriage, financial info, spiritual info, etc.. After that stage you move into the homestudy process. This is a 4 month + process where you get background checks, fingerprints, deeper look at finances, home tour, check out the dog (not kidding), personal info, personal info, and more personal info. Once the homestudy is complete you have to be approved by DHR and immigration. If all is good to go your dossier (portfolio of everything they have about you) is sent to the country you are adopting from. You wait for a referral (the day they call and tell you there is a match) and if we accept the referral we head on over the country to pick up a couple of months later once the legal paperwork is ready.
- How far along are you in the adoption process?
Right now we are in the middle of the homestudy portion. We have already submitted tons of info and have the meetings with the agency going. If I had to guess we have about 1-2 more months of homestudy depending on how long it takes DHR to approve our fingerprints (that we had to get taken at the jail…with inmates! A blog story for another day.) but all we know is that we are working hard to complete what they need from us as fast as possible. The rest will be in our governments hands for a while so they can process all our legal info. So be praying for God’s favor on all our documents and that they will not sit on some government employees desk for weeks without reviewing.
- Can you or do you want others to talk with you about this?
Yes, yes, yes and yes again! Like any other expecting parents we are so thrilled and love talking about it. Our “pregnancy” is not one filled with morning sickness and belly kicks but non the less we love talking about our process in starting a family. Eric and I have been kidding each other that the two hours we have been spending a night doing paperwork and required reading courses we are very much having a gestational period that requires a lot of aches and time but ours is headaches and hand cramps for a time that is unknown.
- What names are you thinking?
Boy: Oliver Lucas Bush
Girl: Lila Kendall Bush
and the question that I know you have been dying to have answered…
- What will the nursery look like?
A swamp of course! If you don’t remember I wanted to have an alligator at my wedding and all of you doubted me and it turned out just fine so just trust me on this one…it will be beautiful. And yes the kid is getting a swamp room boy or girl. You can’t change my mind so don’t even try I have a vision in my head that must happen. So you will just have to wait and see how it looks. (This question was answered by Lauren alone…who else would be this intent on a swamp room?)
Questions we do not have answers to yet…
- Where are you adopting from?
Right now we are thinking South Korea. Our agency is currently in process to get approved in this country. So be praying that God will open up the doors there if that is where we are supposed to be. All we do know is that we are really thinking it will be an Asian country. Again that is a God given desire that is really unexplainable.
- How long will it take?
We really do not know. A lot of it is not only out of our control but our agencies control too. The waiting game is with the governments involved and the perfect match too. But on average it takes 9 months to 2 years in South Korea. So we are really hoping to have a baby home not by this Christmas but next. But who knows it could be as soon as the spring. All we do know is that we have our perfect child out there waiting on us so I do not want to rush it or slow it down. At God’s perfect timing we will bring our little one home.
- What age/gender will the child be?
The average age coming home from South Korea is 9-18 months. So not really sure how old. Unlike China more boys are given up for adoption than girls so more than likely it will be a boy but only God knows.
We know that many of you may have more questions regarding our process so please don’t hesitate to ask. No question will offend us. We realize that to a good bit of you adoption is a new and unfamiliar thing. We would love to talk about the simple questions as well as any concerns you may have. We want all family and friends who will be a part of our child’s life to be a part of their process from this point forward so feel free to email us or call us to chat.
But hopefully we answered some of your questions and gave you a peek into what is going on around our house. We really hope that all of you pray for God’s perfect plan and direction in growing our family. Thanks so much for all the sweet cards, emails and congratulatory gifts that some of you have sent us already. It means the world to us to know that you are supporting us and share in our excitement. We can’t wait to keep all of you in the loop on bringing home baby Bush!
And just in case you are completely out of the loop and did not hear Lebron James will play for the Miami Heat…